TEARS AND FOND MEMORIES

After a challenging journey over the last 3+ months, Ted Hoy passed on early this afternoon at Miami Valley Hospital. On March 7, he was so excited about getting his bone flap re-installed and not having to wear the helmet. Unfortunately and unexpectedly, his brain was much weaker than anyone knew,  and a severe hemorrhage resulted after the bone flap had been put in and surgery was completed. This was in a different area of the brain than before. Ted made some progress, although minimal, during the first week, but after a week, he was determined to be in a chronic vegetative state. The decisions that our family has had to make over the past several weeks are more than any family should endure. Accordingly, we respectfully request that you ask us no questions regarding his treatment or his last  few weeks in the hospital. Ted was a fighter up until the end. He survived almost 40 hours after the ventilator was removed. He was only expected to live a couple of hours. David and I were with him when he passed.

Ted would often refer to an "end of an era" when something different happened in our lives. In many ways, this is an "end of an era" to our family and friends, but Ted will never be forgotten and the many memories involving Ted will be cherished for many years to come.

There will be no funeral, memorial service, or viewing. However, we will receive friends at Miami Valley Golf Club, Salem Ave, Dayton, Ohio on Monday, March 26, from 3:30 pm- 8:30 pm. Ted will be buried Tuesday afternoon at Centerville Cemetery beside his parents.

We want everyone to remember Ted as the vibrant person that he was. There will be a Celebration of Ted's Life and a Tribute to Ted on Sunday, May 6, at 3:30 pm at Miami Valley Golf Club. We expect it to be fun and something that Ted would have enjoyed. We hope that his friends and families will attend.

We sincerely appreciate all of the prayers and warm wishes that you have sent our way since December 2. They are cherished and have gone much beyond our expectations. I would be dishonest if I said that we will not continue to need your support and prayers in the future.

We had a family trip planned to Florida ( our annual pilgrimage to Disney) for Thursday, March 29  and returning Saturday before Easter. Ted was very much looking forward to the family trip, and had taken part in some of the planning last fall and more recently. We will still be going on the trip and will be visitng Ted's sister and her family as part of the pilgrimage.

Today, in honor of Ted, Thomas, David, Christine, and I played 9 holes of golf at Miami Valley. We teamed up Anne and Thomas against David and Christine. David and Christine led by one stroke for several holes, but Anne and Thomas came on strong the last hole to win by one stroke! We had alot of fun and Ted would have been smiling.There were a couple of amazing putts and other shots, which Ted would have enjoyed. Ted joined Miami Valley in 1989 in hopes that his family would play golf there. Well......we did, and we had great fun!.

We are getting ready to watch Ohio State play Syracuse in the NCAA basketball tournament. Ted was an avid Ohio State fan, and would be happy that Louisville just beat Florida!

Much love and appreciation, Anne