Invitations have been mailed to friends and family for the Celebration of the Life of Ted Hoy to be held on Sunday, May 6, 2012, at Second Church of Christ, Scientist, 720 Belmonte Park N. and Grand Ave. ( next to Grandview Hospital), Dayton, Ohio at 3:30 pm. After the program, we will travel up Salem Ave. to Miami Valley Golf Club for dinner- Ted's favorites.
If you did not receive an invitation, you are still welcome to join us.
If you are staying for dinner, PLEASE RSVP at 937-224-0076. I need to give a count to the Club.
It should be a fun afternoon, and we are looking forward to sharing Ted's life with you!
Again, I thank you for your prayers, your messages of comfort and condolence, and for your many kindnesses to me, Thomas, David, and Christine.
We look forward to seeing you on Sunday. Fondly, Anne
Wednesday, May 2, 2012
Saturday, March 24, 2012
FOLLOW-UP TO TEARS AND FOND MEMORIES
Some folks have contacted us about flowers, food, the burial.
Ted was not interested in flowers. He raised funds for both the Miami Valley Makos Swim Team and the Stivers School for the Arts Swim Team. In lieu of flowers, please send donations to either of those swim teams. Donations may be sent to them in care of Anne Frayne, 18 W. First St., Dayton, Ohio 45402.
As mentioned previously, there will not be a viewing, funeral or memorial service. There will be a celebration of Ted's life and tribute to him on Sunday, May 6, at 3:30 pm at Miami Valley Golf Club, Dayton, Ohio. We have scheduled it in the future in hope that friends and family may adjust their schedules and attend.
The family will receive friends and family on Monday, March 26, from 3:30 pm - 8:30 pm at Miami Valley Golf Club, Salem Avenue, Dayton, Ohio. We would appreciate family and friends not stopping by our home to visit but to visit us at Miami Valley Golf Club.
For those of you who have asked, Ted will be buried next to his parents at Centerville Cemetery on Tuesday, March 27, at 3:00 pm. This was initially expected to involve only family, but others have asked to attend. For those who desire to be at the burial, you may attend. It is a very small cemetery. The motorcade will leave from Hazel Baker Snider Funeral Home at approximately 1:30 pm on Tuesday. If you desire to be a pallbearer, please text Anne Frayne at 967-602-0798.
As for food, there will be some family coming in from out of town. Food is not expected. But, for those of you who like to cook and to provide food for comfort, we will gladly accept and indulge.
Again, we appreciate your prayers and support. Your friendship and caring is beyond what we could ever expect or imagine. From our hearts and with much love, Anne
Ted was not interested in flowers. He raised funds for both the Miami Valley Makos Swim Team and the Stivers School for the Arts Swim Team. In lieu of flowers, please send donations to either of those swim teams. Donations may be sent to them in care of Anne Frayne, 18 W. First St., Dayton, Ohio 45402.
As mentioned previously, there will not be a viewing, funeral or memorial service. There will be a celebration of Ted's life and tribute to him on Sunday, May 6, at 3:30 pm at Miami Valley Golf Club, Dayton, Ohio. We have scheduled it in the future in hope that friends and family may adjust their schedules and attend.
The family will receive friends and family on Monday, March 26, from 3:30 pm - 8:30 pm at Miami Valley Golf Club, Salem Avenue, Dayton, Ohio. We would appreciate family and friends not stopping by our home to visit but to visit us at Miami Valley Golf Club.
For those of you who have asked, Ted will be buried next to his parents at Centerville Cemetery on Tuesday, March 27, at 3:00 pm. This was initially expected to involve only family, but others have asked to attend. For those who desire to be at the burial, you may attend. It is a very small cemetery. The motorcade will leave from Hazel Baker Snider Funeral Home at approximately 1:30 pm on Tuesday. If you desire to be a pallbearer, please text Anne Frayne at 967-602-0798.
As for food, there will be some family coming in from out of town. Food is not expected. But, for those of you who like to cook and to provide food for comfort, we will gladly accept and indulge.
Again, we appreciate your prayers and support. Your friendship and caring is beyond what we could ever expect or imagine. From our hearts and with much love, Anne
TEARS AND FOND MEMORIES
After a challenging journey over the last 3+ months, Ted Hoy passed on early this afternoon at Miami Valley Hospital. On March 7, he was so excited about getting his bone flap re-installed and not having to wear the helmet. Unfortunately and unexpectedly, his brain was much weaker than anyone knew, and a severe hemorrhage resulted after the bone flap had been put in and surgery was completed. This was in a different area of the brain than before. Ted made some progress, although minimal, during the first week, but after a week, he was determined to be in a chronic vegetative state. The decisions that our family has had to make over the past several weeks are more than any family should endure. Accordingly, we respectfully request that you ask us no questions regarding his treatment or his last few weeks in the hospital. Ted was a fighter up until the end. He survived almost 40 hours after the ventilator was removed. He was only expected to live a couple of hours. David and I were with him when he passed.
Ted would often refer to an "end of an era" when something different happened in our lives. In many ways, this is an "end of an era" to our family and friends, but Ted will never be forgotten and the many memories involving Ted will be cherished for many years to come.
There will be no funeral, memorial service, or viewing. However, we will receive friends at Miami Valley Golf Club, Salem Ave, Dayton, Ohio on Monday, March 26, from 3:30 pm- 8:30 pm. Ted will be buried Tuesday afternoon at Centerville Cemetery beside his parents.
We want everyone to remember Ted as the vibrant person that he was. There will be a Celebration of Ted's Life and a Tribute to Ted on Sunday, May 6, at 3:30 pm at Miami Valley Golf Club. We expect it to be fun and something that Ted would have enjoyed. We hope that his friends and families will attend.
We sincerely appreciate all of the prayers and warm wishes that you have sent our way since December 2. They are cherished and have gone much beyond our expectations. I would be dishonest if I said that we will not continue to need your support and prayers in the future.
We had a family trip planned to Florida ( our annual pilgrimage to Disney) for Thursday, March 29 and returning Saturday before Easter. Ted was very much looking forward to the family trip, and had taken part in some of the planning last fall and more recently. We will still be going on the trip and will be visitng Ted's sister and her family as part of the pilgrimage.
Today, in honor of Ted, Thomas, David, Christine, and I played 9 holes of golf at Miami Valley. We teamed up Anne and Thomas against David and Christine. David and Christine led by one stroke for several holes, but Anne and Thomas came on strong the last hole to win by one stroke! We had alot of fun and Ted would have been smiling.There were a couple of amazing putts and other shots, which Ted would have enjoyed. Ted joined Miami Valley in 1989 in hopes that his family would play golf there. Well......we did, and we had great fun!.
We are getting ready to watch Ohio State play Syracuse in the NCAA basketball tournament. Ted was an avid Ohio State fan, and would be happy that Louisville just beat Florida!
Much love and appreciation, Anne
Ted would often refer to an "end of an era" when something different happened in our lives. In many ways, this is an "end of an era" to our family and friends, but Ted will never be forgotten and the many memories involving Ted will be cherished for many years to come.
There will be no funeral, memorial service, or viewing. However, we will receive friends at Miami Valley Golf Club, Salem Ave, Dayton, Ohio on Monday, March 26, from 3:30 pm- 8:30 pm. Ted will be buried Tuesday afternoon at Centerville Cemetery beside his parents.
We want everyone to remember Ted as the vibrant person that he was. There will be a Celebration of Ted's Life and a Tribute to Ted on Sunday, May 6, at 3:30 pm at Miami Valley Golf Club. We expect it to be fun and something that Ted would have enjoyed. We hope that his friends and families will attend.
We sincerely appreciate all of the prayers and warm wishes that you have sent our way since December 2. They are cherished and have gone much beyond our expectations. I would be dishonest if I said that we will not continue to need your support and prayers in the future.
We had a family trip planned to Florida ( our annual pilgrimage to Disney) for Thursday, March 29 and returning Saturday before Easter. Ted was very much looking forward to the family trip, and had taken part in some of the planning last fall and more recently. We will still be going on the trip and will be visitng Ted's sister and her family as part of the pilgrimage.
Today, in honor of Ted, Thomas, David, Christine, and I played 9 holes of golf at Miami Valley. We teamed up Anne and Thomas against David and Christine. David and Christine led by one stroke for several holes, but Anne and Thomas came on strong the last hole to win by one stroke! We had alot of fun and Ted would have been smiling.There were a couple of amazing putts and other shots, which Ted would have enjoyed. Ted joined Miami Valley in 1989 in hopes that his family would play golf there. Well......we did, and we had great fun!.
We are getting ready to watch Ohio State play Syracuse in the NCAA basketball tournament. Ted was an avid Ohio State fan, and would be happy that Louisville just beat Florida!
Much love and appreciation, Anne
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
UPDATE DEMANDED - SO HERE IT IS
Many of you have been requesting an update, so here it is. Ted had his surgery on Wednesday to replace the bone flap. It went well. Sometime after the surgery, there was an inter-cranial bleed. It was life-threatening and Ted was put on life support Thursday morning. Although he is still on a ventilator, he is breathing on his own, and has been doing so for a couple of days now. The ventilator helps keep "junk" from going down his windpipe, but he does have a cough and gag reflex at this time. This is good. There was a big concern about additional swelling in his brain. Due to the effective prayers, there was no additional swelling, and there has actually been some reduction in swelling. I am very grateful for the progress of no additional swelling and his ability to breathe. His "vital signs" are good. No additional surgery is planned.
I have been informed that Ted is not in a coma , but he is asleep all of the time. He has some response to stimuli - moving his left hand, left arm, and left leg some. He opens his eyes briefly when "they mess with him." They bathe him daily, turn him every two hours, and clean his mouth every couple of hours. The nurses are taking very good care of him.
Throughout the last couple of months, you have been there supporting us with your prayers and warm thoughts. They got us through those months. Before his surgery, Ted was doing great. He had been released from physical therapy and occupational therapy. He was making alot of progress in his speech therapy. He was excited about getting " his head back" and not having to wear the helmet. He was fun to be with. Thomas and I were with him before his surgery, and there was alot of humor and expectation.
I hope that you will stand by us, support us, and keep praying for Ted's full and complete health, wholeness, and restoration. I hope that you understand that it is not appropriate for visitors at this time. I appreciate the many offers to be with me at the hospital or to visit me. But, you can do more by your prayers, and I prefer to be alone with him or with the children.
As one of the nurses said, " Ted is in there." Please continue to know that Ted is still there , with us, intact and complete. Thank you so much. Fondly, Anne
I have been informed that Ted is not in a coma , but he is asleep all of the time. He has some response to stimuli - moving his left hand, left arm, and left leg some. He opens his eyes briefly when "they mess with him." They bathe him daily, turn him every two hours, and clean his mouth every couple of hours. The nurses are taking very good care of him.
Throughout the last couple of months, you have been there supporting us with your prayers and warm thoughts. They got us through those months. Before his surgery, Ted was doing great. He had been released from physical therapy and occupational therapy. He was making alot of progress in his speech therapy. He was excited about getting " his head back" and not having to wear the helmet. He was fun to be with. Thomas and I were with him before his surgery, and there was alot of humor and expectation.
I hope that you will stand by us, support us, and keep praying for Ted's full and complete health, wholeness, and restoration. I hope that you understand that it is not appropriate for visitors at this time. I appreciate the many offers to be with me at the hospital or to visit me. But, you can do more by your prayers, and I prefer to be alone with him or with the children.
As one of the nurses said, " Ted is in there." Please continue to know that Ted is still there , with us, intact and complete. Thank you so much. Fondly, Anne
Friday, March 9, 2012
UPDATE - PRAYER STILL NEEDED
I have been informed that the next three days for Ted are critical. I will not go into detail. My orders from the healthcare professionals are for (1) PRAYER and (2) PATIENCE. Please do not call or ask me any questions. If you desire to help, please do what the doctor has ordered - pray and be patient. Thank you for your support, your friendship, and your prayers. The time is now! Thank you again and much love for what all of you have done over the past several months. Much love and appreciation, Anne
Thursday, March 8, 2012
PRAYER IS NEEDED - NOW!
Although Ted's surgery went well yesterday, there are some serious post-surgery issues. I will not go into detail; I will not discuss; and I will not answer any questions. BUT, I am making a plea for prayer for Ted. Please pray in whatever way that you choose for Ted to be taken care of by the One Father and for his health and wholeness. Please do not call and do not visit - I have made you aware of the need. I will give updates when appropriate. I appreciate all that you have done over the past three months. The time is NOW for your love and friendship to go into prayer action. THANK YOU SO MUCH. Anne
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
TED IS GETTING HIS HEAD BACK!
Ted had appointments yesterday and today with his rehab doctor and neurosurgeon. Both docs are extremely happy and amazed at his progress and are now expectant for much more progress over the next 18-24 months! Ted will have surgery next Wednesday to replace the piece of skull that was removed in December to allow his brain to swell during the healing process. The skull is in his abdomen. It will be retrieved and put back with titanium clamps to stay. He is expected to be in the hospital 2-3 days. He is expected to walk out with no helmet, and he will be off 24-hour supervision. No visitors please while he is in the hospital this last time.
Ted "asked" Dr. Moncrief if he would improve so that he could teach again at Sinclair Community College. Ted was ecstatic when Dr. Moncrief saw no reason why that could not occur in time.
Ted is sick and tired of the helmet and 24-hour supervision. He is excited about this step in his progress. His feeding tube comes out on Thursday. He is close to becoming a "normal" human being, with some hints of The Bionic Man.
Since last Tuesday, Ted has consistently done the sudoku puzzle in the Dayton Daily News every day. He is very proud of that fact.
On Saturday, I took him to the Miami Valley Bridge Center for an hour to watch his partner, John Meinking, play the last part of a bridge game. Ted understood what was going on, but got very tired after 45 minutes. Stamina, Ted..... Stamina......
Ted is looking forward to playing bridge again,,,,, and also to golf. As I left him today after we returned home, he was going outside with his physical therapist. He is walking really well, and hopes to be carrying his golf bag and walking the links again.
Ted is starting to put together more words. He is putting together 4-5 words, but is still not completing a sentence. BUT, he is almost there! To be honest, Christine and I are very tired of the gesturing and are anxious for him to be fully conversational. Our discompassionate, callous natures have worked fairly well to get him to this level of progress. We have been putting the pressure on to speak in complete sentences. It will come!
If it is not too much of a burden, I ask you to continue to pray and support Ted in this next step of his journey. He is frustrated with the constant companionship by a caregiver or me, and yearns for his privacy. But, we are all learning patience. Your prayers have been so important and effective to get him and us this far, please don't stop now! Much appreciation from all of us........ Anne
Ted "asked" Dr. Moncrief if he would improve so that he could teach again at Sinclair Community College. Ted was ecstatic when Dr. Moncrief saw no reason why that could not occur in time.
Ted is sick and tired of the helmet and 24-hour supervision. He is excited about this step in his progress. His feeding tube comes out on Thursday. He is close to becoming a "normal" human being, with some hints of The Bionic Man.
Since last Tuesday, Ted has consistently done the sudoku puzzle in the Dayton Daily News every day. He is very proud of that fact.
On Saturday, I took him to the Miami Valley Bridge Center for an hour to watch his partner, John Meinking, play the last part of a bridge game. Ted understood what was going on, but got very tired after 45 minutes. Stamina, Ted..... Stamina......
Ted is looking forward to playing bridge again,,,,, and also to golf. As I left him today after we returned home, he was going outside with his physical therapist. He is walking really well, and hopes to be carrying his golf bag and walking the links again.
Ted is starting to put together more words. He is putting together 4-5 words, but is still not completing a sentence. BUT, he is almost there! To be honest, Christine and I are very tired of the gesturing and are anxious for him to be fully conversational. Our discompassionate, callous natures have worked fairly well to get him to this level of progress. We have been putting the pressure on to speak in complete sentences. It will come!
If it is not too much of a burden, I ask you to continue to pray and support Ted in this next step of his journey. He is frustrated with the constant companionship by a caregiver or me, and yearns for his privacy. But, we are all learning patience. Your prayers have been so important and effective to get him and us this far, please don't stop now! Much appreciation from all of us........ Anne
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